You are never powerless. This is what God said to me, after learning that doctors found a spot on my dad’s liver that needed to be biopsied.
I know that God purposefully put me where I was when my mom texted me the news about my dad. I was in the first day, in the first hour, of training in the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. We were on Habit #1: Be Proactive. There I was, learning what it meant to be proactive rather than reactive. Realizing, that I have a tendency to be a reactive person. I tend to let worry and stress overtake me quite frequently. I react to life and try to figure out how I’m going to deal with it, many times feeling overcome with disappointment, overwhelmed with stress, and powerless. I know how to play the victim. But there I was learning that proactive people are not victims. Proactive people realize that, while they may not be able to control the outcome of an event, they can always control the way they respond to the event or to the outcome. They can control their attitude, their behavior, their outlook. Proactive people realize that they always have a choice. Proactive people are never powerless.
So, I was listening to this and feeling empowered. It really dawned on me, for the first time, that I always have a choice in every event in my life. The choice lies within me. I cannot control other people or what life throws at me. But I can control me. I decide how I want to respond, how I want to look at what life hands out. And as I was feeling this wonderful, empowering feeling, my mom texted me that doctors found a spot on my dad’s liver that needed to be biopsied. And, immediately, I was crushed. I became worried, stressed, and scared all at once. And immediately, in my reactive state, I wanted to shout out to the presenter, “Oh yeah, well how can this help me now? I do not have a choice now, do I?” And just as soon as I had that thought, God spoke to me. And He told me that there is always something we can do. It is the most powerful thing we will ever do in our lifetimes. He told me that I can pray.
You see, I know that God purposefully put me in that training when I received that news. He knew that I needed to be open to the fact that we are never powerless. He knew that I needed to learn what being proactive was all about, so that He could show me that even in the scariest, worst circumstances in our lives, we always have a choice.
Remember, there is always something you can do when life hits hard. You can always pray. You can always hope. You can always trust.
You are never powerless.